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People think say I be lazy person
Build short script wey go describe the difficulty, wetin e dey cost, and one exact thing wey dem fit do.
How e dey feel
The word come early and dem repeat am plenti times, usually from people wey love you and wey no get another explanation. After enough years e stop to sound like person opinion and e start to sound like information about who you be. Na that part you suppose separate.
Wetin fit dey happen
Why people dey use the word, and why e dey stick:
- From outside, regulation difficulty and motivation problem dey look the same. Nobody fit see the difference.
- When “try harder” na the only tool wey anybody get, dem go apply am to everything — including thing wey effort no fit fix.
- Plenti times the vocabulary no dey. Specialist assessment don dey scarce and e don concentrate for cities.
- Then shame go do im own damage: you stop to ask for help, you dey over-promise, and you dey hide the systems wey dey actually work.
Try this one now
Write the three-part request
Most request for help dey fail because na confession dem be. Request wey dey work get three parts and e no carry apology. Use the tool below to draft am for your own words — for family, partner, work, or health professional.
The difficulty, as behaviour: “When person give me instruction with mouth, I dey lose most of am before e finish.”
The impact, their own if possible: “Na why the delivery details come wrong last week.”
The exact request, small reach say person fit agree: “You fit send the details as message join the talking?”
Read am loud once. If e sound like apology, cut the apology.
Your script
Edit am until e sound like you. Read am loud once before you use am.
The one thing to do next
Your one next action
Pick one person and one request. No be conversation about your whole history — one sentence wey dey ask for one thing. You fit do the rest later, or you fit never do am.